X-Hooker Life Hack #18: In adolescence, or before that time, don’t feel obligated to assume the default heterosexual identity. Life in American society would be much easier if we deferred assuming a permanent sexual identity til after we’ve lost our virginity and actually learned something about sex in general, and sex, as it is for us, personally. Why do we pressure ourselves to make a permanent decision about something at an age, when ideally, we’ve yet to have any experience? We would never expect a 13 year old to come out, unwaveringly, as an astrophysicist or chef or vetrinarian, etc., for life, at a young age. I understand why people feel pressured to declare that they’ve “known” their sexuality in pre-school. It’s a response to people who want to say they’ve been influenced into doing unnatural acts. I get the claim, but I am doubtful. I didn’t even know there was such a thing as sex at that age. Maybe others are more precocious. I’m certainly not the sharpest tool in the shed (pun intended). Was there anything else anyone knew at a young age that they clung to simply bc they were that young when the thoughts occurred? No. I say, let’s do our part to promote peace by not demanding small children make binding decisions about one of the main aspects of life.