You are reading a website that caters to men who want to discuss their experiences with providers who offer their time, which sometimes include sex. You are reading a review from an enthusiastic client who saw the same woman that you saw. His review reads like something out of penthouse magazine. Yet when you saw her all you did with her was talk even though you wanted to do more but didn’t feel comfortable making the move. What the hell? You don’t know if you should feel offended about the different treatment. Or if you should declare him a liar. Or if you should change your ways or…???
The answers are going to have to be divvied up between more than one post. But I am going to put forth my theory that:
YMMV because YPDV: Your Mileage May Vary because Your Providers Do VaryCaroleena’s theory about why one provider appears to offer different services to different guys.
One reason that service differs for different clients with the same provider is providers are not “professionals” in the truest sense of the word “professional.” A true professional will treat everyone the same no matter how rude the person is, no matter how disgusting the person is, no matter how nasty the person is. The professional provider will treat the terrible person as well as the wonderful person. She I’ll never let personal problems or a bad mood affect her. Feelings never factor into the consummate professional’s job performance. If only, right?
What happens in real life with providers id they often react to how customer treats them. The provider’s humanity seeps out. And yes, I’m going to be politically incorrect by saying providers need to have a man’s indifference to casual sex, but that indifference doesn’t come naturally to a woman, especially if she is inexperienced. If a guy is nice, she may be more likely to be nice back, perhaps hoping he will become her regular. If he is already a regular she might put out more than her usual effort in order to keep him. If a provider finds some task distasteful and she really doesn’t like doing a certain something, she might attempt to avoid this act of the client does not insist upon it. There are those people who won’t take no for an answer, not easily, and they will keep trying something after she says no. For example, there are guys who repeatedly place their hands around women’s necks, even after the women say they are not into choking like some people. Depending on the provider’s personality the client might wear her down and she’ll give in. Or, he might make her mad and he can forget any chance he could have earned in some way, maybe by becoming a regular.
When you were a kid you remember how you had to play certain grown ups differently than others? Were you a manipulative type of kid who didn’t take no for an answer…I was a scared kid who saved my childish manipulations for adulthood. Don’t think I’m being all judgy and can’t relate to being pushy about getting my way bc, I can totally relate. And take it from me, I’m having epiphanies as I write and I literally just realized “Eureka! Maybe that’s why I’ve always been unpopular!” Being pushy can certainly backfire. Then again, being passive can work against you too. Now that I think about it, in every sustained interaction when you want something from someone who might say yes or no, it would be wise to find out what motivates the provider and you provide that provider with a fine tuned, personalized incentive.
Once you’ve established trust, and she doesn’t have to worry you’re attempting to engage her in a problematic conversation that could be misconstrued as illegally soliciting a specific sex act for a specific reward, a respectful discussion could be beneficial.
Remember, this is not a highly regulated industry with exacting standards. Providers aren’t franchises like McDonald’s where you know what to expect no matter where you are or who’s behind the counter. Isn’t the unknown one of the lures? I doubt you would want the direct oversight that would have to be in place to ensure standardized services. Imagine getting a follow up call as if you were dealing with Spectrum after the cable guy departed: on a scale of 1-5, with 5 being the highest, was your provider’s service satisfactory? Lol. Let’s keep mystery alive.
Therefore, YMMV bc YPDV (Your Providers Do Vary). It is in your best interest to treat the provider very well, no matter your opinion of her, or people similarly situated. You might be surprised what happens when you apply your best manners to people society says don’t rate even basic courtesy. More posts on this subject will follow.
Next: Are you sure you’re not being treated like other guys? Here’s why you might want to question what you “know” based on reviews.