“This body is for you”
That’s the message a man gets when he sees a woman in revealing clothes. A variation on what a man hears with his groin is often:
“This body could be for you”
Another statement his groin makes to the man’s brain is:
“This body is up for grabs.”
The next step is to take action. He sees something he likes and the next step is where men and women diverge. That’s when the trouble begins. He sees what he likes and he takes action to try to obtain the use of the body for his pleasure. He does not end his assessment with a view and a thought, a man does something about a woman in skimpy clothes and he believes that her style of dress indicates that she wants him to make a move. I for one, had no idea I was making an offer I was in no way prepared to back up.
I remember being a young girl, like say 13, and enjoying the thrill of receiving obvious male attention for the first time that I ever noticed. Looks. Comments. Crude remarks I pretended not to like. He thinks I’m cute, I believed, and I was right. I did not know that for the man, the interaction wasn’t necessarily over for him when it was over for me. Yes he thought I was cute, but having established that fact, he was past considering my appearance and on to the next logical male decision:
A man sees bare skin and he automatically wants to have it. For at least a slice of a second, the reptilian brain rules
That’s what a man hears and that is what he tries to do to the utmost.
Thirteen year old girls often feel adults are being ridiculous when they scold the girls for wearing skimpy clothing. That is because young girls do not understand what adults know. No grown up ever explains that the sight of a breast causes the man to, perhaps, picture the girl on her knees for an uncomfortably painful period of time, servicing him in a way she did not know people truly practiced. No one tells her the bald truth of the message they are unwittingly putting out there for all to see.
I never fully understood why women were accused of “asking for it” based upon how they were dressed if they became rape victims. Then I figured it out. Women accused of “asking for it” were in fact being scolded for breaking a promise they freely made. Once a woman says yes or is perceived to have said yes, it is almost impossible for her to withdraw that consent without repercussions. The least of these repercussions is criticism from society. But the repercussions could be as serious as having their change of heart disregarded and worse still, physical punishment for “teasing. ”
Ironically, many women never explain to an adolescent the inferred promise of bare skin and the danger that all too often follows. Yet, these women angrily expect other females to know what they didn’t even know at that age. Older women are sometimes certain adolescent girls are offering their bodies when really all the girl wants is attention and a new titillating sort of acclaim. I have known grown women blaming daughters for their husband’s, her step father’s, sexual advances. All too often women side with their husbands against their daughters in a step father triangulation, as if it’s three people on equal footing. More on this sad fact later.