This post is your VIP pass into a secret corner of the internet.


GUYS HAVE SPOKEN PLAINLY ABOUT WHAT THEY WANT FROM PROVIDERS. I GUESS THERE ARE PLENTY OF SITES THAT FEATURE LIVELY REAL TIME DEBATES BETWEEN MEMBERS WHO SHARE A PASSIONATE INTEREST IN A TOPIC. THE SITE THAT I COMFORTABLY CALL “THE USA SITE” HOLDS DISCUSSION FORUMS FOR GUYS WHO SEE ADULT SEX WORKERS AND WANT TO TALK AMONG THEMSELVES ABOUT THE EXPERIENCES. MANY GUYS DON’T WANT THE PROVIDERS TO KNOW ABOUT THE SITE LEST THEY TAKE THE INFORMATION AND USE IT TO THEIR ADVANTAGE SOMEHOW. I HAVE SEEN A POST THAT SAID THE SITE HAD THE SAME RULE AS FIGHT CLUB–THE FIRST RULE ABOUT FIGHT CLUB (THE SITE) IS THERE IS NO TALKING ABOUT FIGHT CLUB (THE SITE). THERE IS A SMALL SPACE FOR WOMEN TO PUT ADS BUT THE SITE IS NOT A PLACE FOR ADVERTISING. THE MISSION IS FOR GUYS TO SHARE INFORMATION ABOUT PROVIDERS WITH OTHER GUYS SO PEOPLE CAN MAKE INFORMED DECISIONS, AVOID RIP OFFS, THE USUAL PURPOSES FOR REVIEWS. WHAT MAKES THE SITE DIFFERENT THAN SOMETHING LIKE YELP IS THAT THE GUYS HAVE ONGOING RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH OTHER, OUTSIDE OF TALKING ABOUT A CERTAIN PROVIDER OR TOPIC. THEY RELATE TO ONE ANOTHER IN SUCH A WAY THAT THEY FORM AN ALL MALE COMMUNITY OF SO-CALLED “MONGERS” OR “HOBBYISTS,” OR MOST RECENTLY “ADMIRERS.’ I ONCE HEARD A RUMOR THAT THE GUYS MEET UP TO DECIDE WHOSE CAREER TO PROMOTE, ETC., BUT I ONLY HEARD THAT RUMOR ONCE. FOR THE MOST PART THE MEMBERS DON’T MEET IN PERSON.

THE COMMUNITY IS STRUCTURED. AT THE TOP YOU HAVE THE ADMINISTRATOR “A2′ WHO INTERJECTS HIS OWN BRIEF POSTS WITH SARCASTIC HUMOR. A2 ALWAYS SOUNDS FAINTLY CONTEMPTUOUS OF THE PEOPLE HE OVERSEES AND OVERTLY CONTEMPTUOUS OF THE WOMEN. TO HIS CREDIT HE DOES A GOOD JOB OF KEEPING RACIST COMMENTARY OUT, AND HE DOES NOT ALLOW THE LOCATIONS AND OTHER IDENTIFYING INFO OF PROVIDERS TO GET OUT, ALTHOUGH HE DOES NOT SCREEN FOR INSULTS TOWARD WOMEN. IN HIS ANGRY WORDS TO ME THE DAY HE KICKED ME OFF THE SITE FOREVER, HIS SITE IS “A PLACE WHERE A GUY CAN CALL A WOMAN A BIG FAT F*****G PIG IF HE FEELS LIKE IT WITHOUT A B***H (ME) MAKING HER PRESENCE KNOWN THROUGH CRITICISM AND MAKING GUYS FEEL THEY CAN’T BE THEMSELVES WITHOUT A FEMALE HAVING SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT IT.” HARSH YES, BUT NOT UNTRUE. MY PRESENCE NO MATTER HOW INTERESTING AND INSIGHTFUL I FANCIED I WAS, DID CHANGE TO TENOR OF THE SITE. THE ADMINISTRATOR GENUINELY WANTED TO ERASE MY PRESENCE AND HE SUCCESSFULLY BLOCKED MY IP ADDRESS AND SOMEHOW UNCOVERED ALL OF MY ATTEMPTS TO USE A DIFFERENT DEVICE WITH A NEW SCREEN NAME. I FIGURED ME TRYING TO POST MY THOUGHTS ON AN ALL MALE SITE WOULD BE LIKE ME TAKING THE KKK TO COURT TO DEMAND THEY ADMIT ME. IT WAS MORE APPROPRIATE TO GET MY OWN CORNER OF THE INTERNET. AND WHILE I DON’T HAVE SUCCESS COMPARED TO HIM I DO GET TO SPEAK MY MIND AND THERE’S NO ONE TO TELL ME THAT A WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT FROM CHILDREN BECAUSE CHILDREN SHOULD BE SEEN AND NOT HEARD AND WOMEN SHOULD NEITHER BE SEEN NOR HEARD.

THE SENIOR MEMBERS ARE NEXT IN THE SOCIAL HIERARCHY UNDER THE ADMINISTRATOR. I BELIEVE THE NUMBER IS 100 BUT I COULD BE WRONG. A GUY NEEDS 100 POSTS TO BE CONSIDERED A SENIOR MEMBER. THE SITE HAS BEEN AROUND SINCE THE LATE 1990’S AND THERE ARE A FEW GUYS WHO HAVE BEEN THERE FROM THE BEGINNING. IF A GUY HAS A LONG TENURE PEOPLE GIVE HIS POSTS MORE CREDIT THAN A GUY WITH JUST A FEW POSTS. BUT THE QUALITY OF HIS POSTS IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS THE QUANTITY. A MONGER EARNS THE RESPECT OF HIS SITE PEERS IF THEY KNOW HIM FOR GIVING REALISTIC INFORMATION ABOUT PROVIDERS THAT IS MORE OF AN ATTEMPT TO INFORM THAN TO BIAS THE OTHERS. A GUY WHO CAN TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A WOMAN WHO IS TRYING TO GET SOMETHING FOR NOTHING BECAUSE SHE IS A RIP OFF, VS. A WOMAN HE DOESN’T CLICK WITH DUE TO A PERSONALITY CONFLICT–THAT IS A GUY THE OTHERS WILL LISTEN TO AND THEY WILL FREELY SHARE THEIR RESPECT. IN THIS IMPERSONAL WORLD WHERE PEOPLE DON’T TELL EACH OTHER HOW THEY FEEL I WOULD NOT BE SURPRISED IF THE PRAISE FROM FACELESS FELLOW MONGERS WAS THE MOST ENCOURAGEMENT A GUY EVER GETS.

AFTER THE SENIOR MEMBERS COME THE REGULAR MEMBERS. THE REGULAR MEMBERS HAVE TOO FEW POSTS TO HAVE THEIR OPINIONS TAKEN COMPLETELY AT FACE VALUE BUT THEY ARE NOT IGNORED. ONE BIG NO-NO IS FOR A GUY TO ASK FOR INFO ABOUT A PROVIDER BEFORE HE EVER SHARES ABOUT ONE OF HIS EXPERIENCES. FOR EXAMPLE, IF A GUY IS LOOKING FOR A PROVIDER THAT DOESN’T RUSH HIM OUT THE DOOR, OR WHO CAN CARRY ON A GOOD CONVERSATION, OR WHO DOESN’T WANT TO USE A CONDOM, HE HAD BETTER POST ABOUT HIS TIME WITH SOMEONE AND POINT OUT THAT THE EXPERIENCE WAS OR WAS NOT WHAT HE WANTS AGAIN. CAN ANYONE SUGGEST SOMEONE? IF HE VIOLATES THAT RULE HE WILL BE PUBLICLY SHAMED. ITS WEIRD BUT THE SHAMING DIRECTED FROM THE SCREEN NAME OF STRANGERS TO YOUR OWN SCREEN NAME IS VERY HURTFUL AND EFFECTIVE.

FOR THE MOST PART, JUST LIKE EVERYWHERE ELSE ONLINE, THERE ARE WAAAAY MORE PEOPLE WHO READ THE SITE THAN POST AND STRIVE TO BECOME SENIOR MEMBERS. THESE GUYS ARE CALLED “LURKERS.” THEY MIGHT NOT POST, BUT THEY MIGHT CHOOSE A SCREEN NAME BECAUSE THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO SEND A PRIVATE MESSAGE TO A MEMBER. MOST GUYS DO NOT WANT TO SHARE INTIMATE TALES AND A GOOD NUMBER OF THEM HAVE PRIVACY CONCERNS AND WORRY THAT IF THEY POST SOMETHING SOMEHOW IT WILL COME BACK TO BITE THEM IN A PUBLIC WAY.

OTHER GUYS ARE PRETTY GRAPHIC ABOUT THEIR ENCOUNTERS. I AM TRYING TO MENTALLY WORK OUT THE STANDARDS OF THE ADMINISTRATOR IN ORDER TO CONVEY THEM TO YOU BEFORE YOU LOOK FOR YOURSELF. HMMM…OK, I’VE NEVER SEEN POSTS THAT WERE HUMILIATING FOR NO APPARENT REASON. IF A GUY IS GOING TO BE INSULTING IT HAS TO BE FOR THE PURPOSES OF SHARING INFORMATION–OTHER GUYS PROBABLY WANT TO KNOW THAT WHEN SHE OPENED HER LEGS THE ROOM FILLED WITH THE SMELL OF DEAD FISH. I THINK THE ADMINISTRATOR LETS THE SITE MEMBERS REGULATE THEMSELVES. IF A GUY IS CONSTANTLY PUTTING DOWN A PARTICULAR PROVIDER THE OTHERS WILL SPECULATE THAT HE HAS PERSONAL ISSUES SUCH AS FEELINGS OF REJECTION OR A DESIRE TO SCARE PEOPLE AWAY FROM HIS FAVORITE SO SHE WILL HAVE MORE TIME FOR HIM AND BE MORE IN NEED OF HIS MONEY.

ONE THING I FIND INTERESTING IS THAT GUYS DON’T WORRY THAT REVIEWERS COULD BE ANYONE, LIKE A GIRL’S GRANDMOTHER WHO GIVES HER A POOR REVIEW TO GET HER OUT OF THE LIFE. GUYS ARE NOT REALLY WORRIED ABOUT THE UNLIMITED POSSIBLE IDENTITIES OF REVIEWERS. INSTEAD THEY HAVE ONE SPECIFIC CONCERN WHEN IT COMES TO THE IDENTITY OF THE PERSON WITH INFO ABOUT SEX WITH A CERTAIN WOMAN. THE MONGERS ARE MOST CONCERNED WITH FIRST OF ALL BEING DECEIVED AND SECOND OF ALL, WASTING MONEY. IT’S ALL ABOUT THE SHILLS. “SHILLS” ARE GUYS WHO HAVE PERSONAL REASONS FOR GIVING OVER THE TOP FAKE POSITIVE REVIEWS. GUYS WORRY THAT THE SHILL IS GETTING FINANCIALLY COMPENSATED BY PROMOTING CERTAIN WOMEN. GUYS ARE CONCERNED THAT MEMBERS WILL INVENT TEN, TWENTY SCREEN NAMES IN ORDER TO INFLUENCE THE BUSINESS PROSPECTS OF WOMEN FOR WHOM THE AGGRIEVED HAVE STRONG FEELINGS. THE MONGERS READING THE POSTS ARE NOT CONCERNED WITH THE WOMAN’S WELFARE AS MUCH AS THEIR OWN SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.

I ONCE HAD A GUY WHO REALLY HATED ME (HE COMMENTED IN A POST ABOUT MY SCAR FROM AN EMERGENCY LIFE SAVING APPENDECTOMY WITH “BARF! DID YOU SEE HER STOMACH?”) I ALSO HAD A GUY WHO REALLY LIKED ME AND MADE SURE TO KEEP MEMBERS CURRENT ON ANY CHANGES IN MY CONTACT INFO, LOCATION. I SOUGHT ADVICE FROM MY LONG TERM REGULAR WHO HAD INTRODUCED ME TO THE SITE. HE TOLD ME THAT THE IDEAL FOR A WOMAN IS TO GET A GUY WHO OBVIOUSLY HAS SOME SORT OF PROBLEM WITH HER BC THAT SHOWS SHE HAS ENOUGH POWER TO BE DISLIKED. WHEN THAT GUY WRITES HIS OVERLY EMOTIONAL REVIEWS ABOUT HOW MUCH HE HATES HER, IT IS VERY MUCH IN THE WOMAN’S FAVOR FOR OTHER MEMBERS TO JUMP TO HER DEFENSE. AN OLD TIMER ON THE SITE WILL CONCLUDE THAT THIS WOMAN IS SPECIAL AND SHE WILL GET THE MOST BUSINESS AS THE CENTER OF A CONTROVERSY THAT COMES OUT IN HER FAVOR. AS IT TURNED OUT, THE GUY I CONFIDED IN HAD A REVEAL IN STORE FOR ME. MY MENTOR, THE GUY I MET IN MY EARLY DAYS AS A WORKING GIRL WITHOUT A BREAST AUGMENTATION AS I STROLLED ALONG DRUG INFESTED KUKUI STREET IN DOWNTOWN HONOLULU, THE VERY PERSON WHO CALLED ME WITH SUGGESTIONS ABOUT NEW MEMBERS WHO MIGHT WANT A SMART WOMAN TO PRIVATE MESSAGE THEM, THIS HELPFUL GUY WAS THE SAME GUY WHO HATED ME AND HE WAS THE SAME GUY WHO DEFENDED ME

HERE IS YOUR LINK TO THE SECRET ONLINE SOCIETY

http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/forumdisplay.php?410-Honolulu

Published by Respectably Witty Harvard X-Hooker Advisor

Caroleena, ivy league educated X-Hooker in Honolulu, respectfully presents social commentary/wisdom based on experiences with humor for everyday people

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