A man and a woman go into a hotel room alone. The woman said he raped her. People argue, she should have known what he was thinking. Others say a woman can always tell him “no.” The debate rages but it is always one sided in that women have to consider him. He never has to consider her. What did she want at that time? Should he give it to her or not? We are still all about him, even as we advocate for women’s rights, that’s how brainwashed we are.