Taboos are Publicly Avoided
If I say to a person, you don’t look like someone who would start fires. Or–you don’t look like someone who would commit murder, well, it would be odd because that is not the sort of thing one normally says. But I would not give offense. It’s good not to look the type. For people who really commit those crimes, looking like that type of criminal is, I imagine, an impediment to getting anything done.
The Confusing Double Standard
If I say to a person, you don’t like someone anyone would pay to have sex with…Now that statement could very well be an insult. Depending on the context it could be a tossed off joking remark, or words that cut to the bone. The crux of the matter is women want to look like Demi Moore in Indecent Proposal, the movie that has actor Robert Redford playing a multi-millionaire who can easily afford to offer Moore’s character, or really, the husband, $1 million for one night with her, details withheld but we can all assume what he is paying for, and indeed he did pay for sex.
Who among us wouldn’t want that opportunity (yes, I said opportunity) to come along? Even if we weren’t having financial difficulties like the couple in the movie. But keeping everything in the realm of the hypothetical, we would want people to look at us and think “$1 million for a night with her? Yes, I can imagine someone with the means paying that price. Look at her!” Or maybe it’s just me being shallow. Speaking for myself, I would love to be considered that beautiful, that pure of a sex object, under the right and limited circumstances. I admit–I want to be beautiful and regarded as such! You got me! One or two of you can silently relate, I know it.
One of the very many points the movie makes is that everyone is likely to have a sex-with-a-stranger price. For enough money, a woman would be stupid not to–after that certain price is reached. I once heard a comedian sum up the prostitution issue with this pithy statement: “give up the p***y, make the money.” So prostitution is not an absolute taboo, nor is it an almost absolute taboo, like murder. It’s, well, negotiable. And I am talking straight transactional prostitution, not reinterpreting marriage as a form of prostitution, but the kind of interaction that is more frowned upon than any other non-violent crime, imho. In certain situations, if it comes down to it, prostitution itself is a no brainer–of course you would, I would. Secretly, privately. But always, always, in public, we want to look like women who are desired so intensely that men would pay a great deal of money for a night with us!