advice for my middle school self. Let’s say I couldn’t change my circumstances, that I was deliberately provided clothing that would make me a laughingstock, for example. I’d comfort my pre-teen self, a hapless young lady who struggled with her hair thanks to Seventeen (17) Magazine (a periodical for straight haired white girls). The white kids in my Gifted and Talented class shot spitballs into my out of control hair and laughed when the paper wads got lost in my pouf of frizz. I’d turn the tables on all those kids who called me a “loser” by dealing with the mockers the same way I presently deal with would-be rapists: gain the upper hand with a jaw dropping totally unexpected manuever for which there’s no precedent. During the initial surprise caused by my actions I would become a winner simply by confidently saying that’s what I was. Picture it: I’d call the “Spark” G&T class to order, stand up on a desk and announce to all the kids and the teacher that I was the leader of my own path. I was doing my own thing and this right path I was on–they’d have to do as I did to become independent.
I’d dishonestly declare my hair and my poverty clothes– my choice, that’s what I would have everyone think. I’d invite anyone who wanted to be a free thinker to follow me while I…I followed no one but my spirit guide. I might look hopelessly out of style but in truth I was above it all. Yep, 7th graders would stand in awe of a peer pontificating thusly from a desk top. My isolation would signify my advanced state rather than my loser status.
- No one is as confident as they look
- Everyone feels afraid of rejection and wonders if he or she is acceptable
- Anyone brave enough to break with the rank and file with apparent ease would be respected
- A declaration of Independence and confidence is a self fulfilling prophecy
- People aren’t thinking about you bc they’re too consumed by thoughts of themselves.
- Stand up to those who mock you and they’ll back right down in shock.
- If you do something bizarre in front of bullies they’ll think you’re crazy and be reluctant to mess with someone so unpredictable. (Works on would be rapists too.)
If you could go back to 7th grade, unable to change anything but knowing what you know now–what would that scene look like? If you could Turn Back Time…
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