Truth is hate speech for those who hate the truth. In this example women do not know what they want to hear. They don’t want truth they want reassurance. If the truth about your significant other will upset you, don’t ask for the truth beyond being honest with yourself about your need to lie to yourself. Wow, that’s convoluted reasoning! When you can’t live in peace with the truth but you’re determined to change nothing, it’s hard to have reasonable self talk!