“Don’t Touch Me!” People are Surprised that Sex Workers Feel This Way

Prostitution is Not About Intimacy and that’s why it’s successful

When men pay hookers they are not paying for sex bc they are so unappealing no one would voluntarily have sex with them. Men always pay for sex. If they are with a prostitute they pay cash. If the woman is not a prostitute she expects payment, for sure, but not in cash. He must offer her real or feigned interest. He must listen to her it pretend he is listening. He has to put in time in the form of dates which may cost money but will absolutely cost time, and quality time at that. It is helpful to indicate that he will spend more quality time with her in the future. But some women accept one night stands and know that there will be no additional kindness from him, no more time spent.

A friend once commented that two people he knew who disliked people earned their livings dealing with others. One misanthropic soul was a cab driver. The other person was a sex worker. “Don’t you guys totally deal with people all the time

Why pay for it?

Does anyone think it possible for a man to have sex with a woman and give her none of the aforementioned forms of currency that women value? I noticed the slogan “free love” didn’t last beyond that generation. Just as their baby boomer parents predicted.

Maybe young hippies learned the consequences if so called free sex, like a slew of mixed race babies from interracial temporary unions who were soundly rejected by both the black and white families. Just to give a for instance about the cost of sex. Sex, like every decision, costs. The cost of the decision is is always the lost opportunity to pursue other courses of action.

One reason men pay prostitutes.

Men find it cheaper, easier, and more guaranteed to pay money for sex instead of just time. So you see, it is quite possible to dislike people and successfully work as a hooker without letting any guy into your inner world. The guys don’t want to know you anyway so sex work is ideal for some hermits. What irony.

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12 thoughts on ““Don’t Touch Me!” People are Surprised that Sex Workers Feel This Way

  1. As far as I know, your site is unique, as I believe so is mine. I searched Reader with keywords “manipulation magic” because I want to know if there is ANYBODY out there with a similar perspective to mine about magic. Haven’t found anybody so far. It never occurred to me to seek women with experience and understanding of something that has been such a significant part of my life over a 40-year stretch as interactions with women who are willing and actively seeking men who will pay for sex. I feel a wonderful solidarity with and empathy for you. I dropped out of university in my fifth year, became homeless, and somehow managed to get married and raise three boys, and finally find myself well on the path I was always seeking.

    1. I have seen these ads for cuddle buddies as well as ads for services that offer other forms of intimacy that is not sex.

      What interesting times we live in.

      1. Prostitution isn’t a desperate act for many of us we want to be in the sex industry, it has put us through college, university, doctors lawyers nurses psychologist are just a short list of my co workers. Sex work has afforded us with helping our families with bills, housing, cars, we own our homes, we are educated business women who sell our time to men and women, couples, etc. .
        Very true many do it out of desperation however prostitution as a desperate act is ignorant. It is very diverse and there are so many women who are not desperate. If you’d like more information to tailor writing to a more realistic view on sex work let me know! I’m always willing to help when it comes to understanding sex work as work. Also I know women from street walkers to online to strippers to high end sex workers as well as working online, stripping, in person calls, escorting anywhere from dinner to work events to vacations to fetishes and many services that do not involve sex at all. This was definitely a good read and gutsy! I like it!

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