Men can be so accustomed to lying to women that they forget the reason they hired a sex worker in the first place. There are men, quite a lot of them, that hire women for sex so they can cut to the chase. They do not want to woo her, they do not want to send her flowers, they do not want to sit through a date hoping it will end well, and for god’s sake, they most certainly do not want to (pretend to) listen to her! They just want effortless, guaranteed sex, right now, with no (emotional) strings attached to the sex act. Guys say they don’t want women falling in love and if they only see the woman once or twice, they know they won’t fall in love. But nothing is free, including “free love.” There is no NSA without pay. Sex workers can provide the lack of emotional involvement that men seek when they just want to “hit it and quit it,” as the vulgar expression says.
People get attached no matter what they intend
The unexpected happens when people spend time together. No matter what we intellectually know about the other person’s status, or lack of status, about the rules forbidding relationships, etc…people who spend time together get attached. Even sex workers get attached to the clients. This is not to say that they start feeling like the clients owe loyalty. Sometimes expectations develop but mostly, they do not. Sex workers, on the street anyway, are using the men as a means to an anend, to obtain the object they truly want. They do not care if the men see other women. They cannot imagine a client who did not see other women. Seeing different women is rather the point, is it not? But men who are used to lying find themselves lying to the women they hire precisely because they seek emotional indifference. If they see a provider for any length of time they strart lying to the provider just like they lie to their wives. The difference is the provider knows more about what the guy is really up to in his intimate life than the wife. It is always amusing when a client has said he was late for an appointment because he had to work, then he leaves behind a receipt from one of the bars (often Korean) where the women are there to encourage men to buy them watered down drinks for $20 a drink. The men get the fawning attention of women who are out to get that money for the bar and maybe they will do extra for themselves in a back room that the bar makes sure never to acknowledge. So the guys said he was working, and the provider finds a receipt he left behind from one of those “buy me drinkee” bars. He did not have to lie to her but he did. It is possible he did not want her to see that he paid the bar more than he paid the provider. But I think there are guys who say they do not want attachment, but they want the women to be jealous, they want the women, be they providers or significant others, to want them. They like believing that if they do not lie about what they were doing the woman will have a fit about sharing him. Guys without insight into the depths of their motives do not realize whst they are doing. Some wonder hoe they ended up lying more often, not less, and to more than one woman as well as their wives. Their subconscious fantasy causes them to tell themselves they seek providers to simplify their lives but the real truth is they crave complications and drama that stems from their starring role as the object of desire for multiple women. These men want to bed more than one woman, and they want to make more than one woman fall in love with them. And the guys don’t even know it.