It’s very common for sex workers to deny having sex with tricks. They are aware of the social stigma associated with hooking, of course. Many say they usually “just talk,” when asked what they do with guys. A lot of women in jail asked me what i did with the guys and it was easier to claim conversation. I always detected disdain in the question. Of course Iwanted to save face. Once, in jail, I heard a working girl acknowledge that it is quicker and easier to simply have sex with the guy then to take the time to try and avoid having sex with him by stringing him along until he has to depart. But her honesty was rare. Most working girls, myself included, say “oh no not me I don’t actually have sex with the guys.” Consider the following text I received a couple of months ago from a Honolulu based working girl I will call Skye.
You know I hardly ever have sex with Bryce and he gives me a grip of money every day. At least $300. I bet you couldn’t say that anybody gives you anything.–“Sky,” self described Honolulu based “Ho” in a 2018 text to this author
I won’t use this space to discuss her speculation about me. However, her text is a useful, word for word quotation from her that shows how one provider attempted to insult a former provider for doing the very thing she herself does. “Hardly ever” is not a denial, but it is a way to distance herself from shame.
Ever heard of “trick f*****g”?
“Trick f*****g” is the practice of somehow using enough lubricant on one’s cleverly positioned hand to make the trick think that he has actually penetrated the provider when in fact she is holding his member in her hand. I have heard many providers claim to do it and do it so well they have repeat customers who do not know they have never had sex with the provider.
That’s why they are called ‘tricks.’A provider who claimed to avoid intercourse altogether in a 2010 discussion.
No one wants to be on the losing team. Everyone wants to be a winner. So it is natural for providers to say they are not like the rest of the providers who don’t know enough to avoid sex. I guess that’s why i have heard one provider call another a name she could call herself. I suppose it is normal to hear one provider call another provider “whore” with every ounce of derision that she can muster. Why? Providers do not self identity has hookers, even if they flippantly use the word “Ho” the way “Skye” does. There is very little unity among providers. Maybe because no one wants to admit she is a member of a group, even if she is.