Identity Theft Precautions Clearly Show America’s Sexual Standards For Female Virginity

Eye catching title? I hope so. I hope many people are intrigued to find out how i connect identity theft and sexual customs. First, what is identity theft? The financial system is set up to keep us in debt. We must borrow money and pay it back slowly over a period of time. If we have no debt we have either no credit, or our credit score drops. If we have no debt creditors won’t take a chance on our unproven fiduciary about our fiduciary trustworthiness. If we pay the debt off quickly, our credit age, which is length of time we have had a debt account, is reduced. We do not prove we will repay our debts over an extended time. To my way of thinking avoiding debt or repaying loans quickly is a good sign of trustworthiness, but then again I am not someone who profits off of the interest that is charged to people who owe money.

We must acquire debt if we ever want a loan for a significant amount of money. Many people do this by applying for credit cards using identifying information on the application. Certain identifiers are not unique, such as date of birth, but the combination of this birthday with that name and social security number should be unique to one person. Every American has a date of birth, a gender, a name, a social security number, and a residence, for example. You must guard this information because in the digital age anyone can go online and use someone else’s information to apply for a credit card. There is no one looking to notice the gender or age. No one would see, for example, that I am not a 23 year old male. My identity would be hidden, unattached to the procedure. Therefore if I were inclined to be an identity thief and had acquired someone else’s personal information, I could use his information as if I were him to obtain a credit card “in his name,” as the saying goes. The items would go to anonymous me, the debt to the victim.

Everyone is eligible to apply for credit with the same personal information we all possess. There is never piece of personal information that we are all assumed to possess that interests me. Mother’s maiden name. The maiden, or virginal/unmarried name, is your mother’s surname before she married and took your father’s name. There is a universal sexual standard for women. First, a woman will marry, replace her original surname with her husband’s name, and only then have a child. Surely everyone’s mother has a maiden name just as everyone has a date of birth. I have never seen the request for mother’s maiden name followed by the words, “if applicable.” A woman is a mother therefore she must be married because no way is she screwing around “out of wedlock” and she certainly would not present an “illegitimate” child to the world by giving the nfant her maiden name as his surname. In the United States sexual sins of the mother are passed to the children. Hence an innocent fetus is given the lifelong stigmatizing label “illegitimate” or even “bastard.”

One might argue that this model is no longer universal. Customs have changed, terminology just has to catch up. My answer to that claim is: the emphasis on knowing and protecting your personal information is recent because the widespread use of the internet is only a 21st century phenomenon. This standard as been reaffirmed, like, the other day.

Do you think there’s a secret committee that runs everything? They might have said “let’s formalize sexually acceptable behavior for women in an unexpectedly subtle way.”





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Clients confided in the Ivy League educated hooker–me. Why? I was smart enough to understand anything they shared. Equally important, my status as social outcast meant even if I told their secrets few would listen to me. Of those who listen, few of that small number would believe me.  Almost no one would care what a woman of ill repute had to say. I understood their secrets and kept those precious gifts safe since I couldn’t tell on them even if I wanted to!  Of course, I did not want to unlock the vault and violate trust.  I said nothing and remembered what I heard.  learned that many men lived in shame BC of the erroneous belief that they were different than others. They did not know that their confessions had been echoed by others. I had a friend who lived his whole life never fully accepting himself BC he thought he was uniquely weird. He was wrong. His alienation was unnecessary pain. If he knew what I knew his life could have been happier. The only way I can form a community out of shared secrets, mostly sexual, but not entirely, is to tell the secrets while maintaining perfect confidentiality. My blog tells of my experiences with the emotions and musings of people in the sex industry now, and in my past (up to 15 years ago). The purpose of every post is to comfort to at least one person with the assurance that someone else felt/thought the same way. The feelings and thoughts are true, the people and events combine interviews, personal experience, and fiction. You cannot meet Caroleena bc she does not exist beyond this site. But she speaks truth. Sometimes your truth. You are not alone with your secrets. Come, let me show you.