Middle of the day, walking on Kukui Street in downtown Honolulu–you get to see what used to happen every minute when s chance encounter occurs while the camera rolls. Nothing inappropriate, only incredibly educational if you want a look at what was hidden in plain site.
I have been blessed with fans of my writing who will take pix
People who enjoy my work take pix of me, for me. I like to have pix because it keeps a record of how things are going for you year after year. I k ow I’ve admitted to you before that I’m shallow and vain so you already know I like to look pretty. It takes quite a bit more than smiling for the camera these days. I need full make up that’s applied with a special airbrush device that’s advertised on TV and available for online purchase only. I am much improved by my fake hair and I am happy to have the fake breasts and fake front tooth. I need the cameraman to be 10 feet away while utilizing dim, flattering light, and a special filter over the lens if the camera for the purpose of softening the details of the picture. After the pictures are taken I scan through the digital collection for the best shots. I choose the one out of two hundred shots that shows the best version of me and then I apply an invaluable tool–a free app that does my makeup and evens out my skin tone to get rid of the dark marks acne leaves behind.
I have the option of applying yet another filter to change the background of the picture. I can remove anything or anyone that makes me l add, like a more attractive person.
I am gorgeous at a distance in soft lighting and an ever do slightly blurred view, while I am cloaked in the finest fakery I can afford.
When it’s all said and done my best features are mine through purchase and not nature. That’s how I get beautiful pictures. And you know what? I’ll take it! Lol!
Is Monogamy Really in the Marriage Vows?
Forsaking all others. That line is in the traditional marriage vow. People think it has to mean monogamy. Forsaking all others, just you and me. But there is more than one way to conceptualize forsaking all others. It could mean that we do not care what anyone else says our union should be. This is our thing. If we want to bring other people into it, that’s fine. If we want to have separate bedrooms like roommates, that’s our business. I have heard of people who have to be apart, maybe through work or incarceration. In some cases the agreement between them is, do whatever you want in my absence but be there for me and only me when I get back. Living up to the expectations of a faceless society is difficult when you have to live an unhappy life bc it’s the “right” thing to do. While you’re miserable how do you ever confirm that you’ve pleased these other people you’re so worried about? Or, you might suffer through the “right’ thing for a specific person’s approval but that person is not laying next to you at night. What could your life be if you could agree with your spouse about what you two want to do, regardles of how unusual your terms, while forsaking all others–parents, in-laws, strangers and their opinions, expectations and pressure. A marriage free of the influence of other people is far to rare but I think that’s the standard of freedom the marriage vows try to create.
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My Great Ideas…
I have been so sick of being stranded. I decided to make good use of the pandemic unemployment money and buy a modest used car. I hooked up with someone on Facebook Marketplace, which has been a big help in the past. Turns out he was a salesman at a Honolulu Ford dealership. I kind of thought he was a private seller. Ok, my mistake. I told him I had $x. Not a penny more. I thought I heard him say under his breath, ” I can get you something for that but it’s not going to run.” I must have heard wrong, I told myself. He made a show if acting like he was in intense negotiations with the manager but finally, just for me, he got that price. I just needed the last $500 for taxes. Could I call someone? He should have sold me the car right then without taking a chance on bringing in s person who could influence me to change my mind. I called someone who will lend me money at a bit of a profit for himself. When he arrived he said “no way!” He taught me the term “underpowered,” as in this P.O.S. car goes 0-60 in 60 seconds, pedal to the metal. As my friend wa driving me out of the car lot, I felt bad about the salesman who was waiting for me. I texted the salesman to explain my friend had veto authority and he disapproved. My friend told me don’t bother bc I didn’t owe the salesman an explanation. I wanted to be polite, especially since I am working on manners. Of course I knew the salesman was trying to screw me on price but that’s to be expected. I had a positive feeling about the guy. I would discover my feelings were not reciprocated.
24 Hours Later I received A Text I Saved W/ a Screenshot
When you look at the following texts you will see salesman Mario is first, Caroleena us second in the green bubble.
Do you think Dealership Cared?
I tried to report this abusive salesman but did Honolulu Ford on North King Street next to Carrington High School care? No one would take my call nor did anyone call me back. Turns out my reviews are very popular and I am posting Mario’s words. I am glad he gave me consent to use his texts. I will tell you faithful readers of the response to my review.
A Sales Tactic
I did a training to learn how to sell cars. Two relev points are: everything they say is pre planned and precisely scripted two, they want to keep you engaged by getting you in, keeping you there, getting you back. When I looked the messages over I see it is an attempt to insult me and get me to show a bank statement. He wants me ty o as how him my money so can have the satisfaction of being right. You’ll see that message in his half literate writing (you already know am a snob). If I show him my money I will prove I am worth the time and I am engaged even after I left. A sale is still possible! In sales, it is accepted that once a potential buyer departs, forget them, they are gone. Honolulu Ford has a different take on how to treat the person who leaves without a vehicle. This mean method is probably sanctioned by management which is why they did not call me back about my complaint of an abusive salesman. They are probably the ones who gave him the script! One thing is for sure, they do not value me. You use different tactics on different people. This guy looked at me and thought: affiliated with the homeless. I guess in a way he was right. But he was wrong to think I wanted his approval.
People say race isn’t a factor but…
I am routinely treated with this disrespect. There are men, white men and Asian men, I have met who never, not once, had anyone talk to them the way I am addressed in those texts. Not. Once. This treatment is something that always catches me by surprise, yet does not surprise me. I guess I know the hostility is there, but I never predict the form or source of the hatred.