As long as porn is something you both do together, as a married couple, you’ll be fulfilling the vow to “forsake all others.” I believe this vow means the two married people make up their rules for their union and whatever they say, goes. Share and share alike. Share porn.
Here’s what’s happening–everything voluntary is being shut down. We are going from being encouraged to shut down and go home to having a curfew, on one of the neighbor islands, of 9:30. Of particular interest: homeless are told to “shelter in place.” The Honolulu mayor is really hostile toward the homeless and orders the police to move them along and throw away their few possessions. I’m curious to see if people, my people are going to be left alone or what..? I’m heading into downtown to find out what’s happening.
Bummed out about losing my job. I didn’t make the cut for the skeleton staff that’s at the hotel. I didn’t know if feel such a sense of loss when I expected hotel services to be waaay cut back but I do. Now I want to take care not to lay around, eating junk and gaining weight. I’m going downtown while we are still allowed to travel, to see how my fellow addicts are doing
As you may know I have been struggling to get the confidence to accompany my posts with a video summary. This article encourages those of us who want to develop communication skills to video ourselves daily, AND watch the video instead of just blindly posting the video to YouTube bc you can’t bear to watch it. So today–Day 1. The YouTube link will follow.
Addicts see reality through the distorting blinders of addiction. Addicts lie a lot, bc they won’t be able to do what they must do if people know the truth, but often addicts say what they honestly believe to be true, i.e., “this time I will do things differently.” Addicts don’t lie as often as you might think but that doesn’t make us honest.
Too Wordy–that’s the feedback I have received from people who have read my posts. However, there are a great many who see the wall of words and are altogether turned off. I think all of my thoughts are jewels. Other people don’t necessarily agree. So let’s see if I can ride to the challenge of letting go of a thousand words in exchange for pics!
I agree with the comment that this post seems dumb. Keep in mind, I’m not encouraging readers to make decisions prior to gathering facts. I want people to comment on what they see not what they imagine they will see. However first impressions are often only impressions. My angle was to appeal to people who would be curious to see the picture. Was I pandering to baser desires? Or appealing to natural instinct? Both and neither. Yes, I was remarking about the inaccuracy of people who claimed (at the time of the original post) that the Prince of England was a race traitor for marrying a woman who is 25% black thereby ruining the royal lineage. But my real hope was interest in the pictures. Thanks for your feedback!
I saw a woman with a bikini on, and the seat was baggy. Her butt did not fill out the bikini bottom. The material just hung there. From what I know about my ethnicity I am white and black and some other stuff. The result is a butt that shows the races are meant to mingle, peacefully, because look–
A mixed race butt would definitely fill out a bikini bottom with no spillage.
A downtown female crack addicted streetwalker can be had for as little as $20. These women, “crack ho’s” are not rare and they will do a lot with you for just enough money to get the next high, $20 for the next tenth of a gram of ice or boy (heroin) or ma’a (the word for rock in Samoan, colloquially used to denote crack). Sometimes they call the crack Ho’s “point ones” because that’s what a tenth of gram looks like on digital scale used for weighing dope–.1. Guys who go downtown think of themselves as benefactors if they pay a female $60. However, they will open their wallets for a pretty mahu (transgender) hooker who is not on drugs. I mean a mahu that looks too good to be female. The crack ho’s are tore up from the floor up. But your average mahu…she’s a beauty. Yes, $1000 spent on a chick with a d**k is money well spent. Keep in mind that clients want a chick with a functional d**k. If guys are going to go with a man, they want to do stuff they can’t do with a woman. And they get pretty raunchy with these mahus, even playing the role of the female, sexually speaking. These husbands (to some unsuspecting women) want the mahu to do them, and that shocks people. These clients are really good at keeping their secrets. They never feel the need to unburden themselves by confessing. They will take the secret of their sexual encounters with men to the grave and never self identify as liars or gay.
A client talking about how he compartmentalizes his life with TG (male) hookers and his professional and public life as a married business man.
Don’t yell. Ever. You’re keeping your message short, like one sentence. If you raise your voice, if you get combative, men quite literally tune it out. Men are told women are irrational, emotional, and impossible to deal with when they’re deep in their femininity. If a man hears a woman who is bitching at him he hears her as unintelligible noise like the adults on Charlie Brown cartoons. (Just look at the verb “bitching” for insight into society’s view of women)
Your words will be few and gently delivered. Short and sweet, in the truest sense.
Boys Will be Boys. I must add that Boys will be boys and girls Make Adjustments for Boys. Men insist on getting their way and they judge women by what’s normal for me. That’s why men think, if a woman stops fighting in a sexual encounter she must be giving consent because men can’t imagine giving in to a would-be rapist. Men pester women for what they want the way little boys pester their mothers. Men don’t naturally think in terms of making the best of things or giving a little to get a little. It’s about getting what he wants in an all out win. I guess my thinking is more male than female. I too don’t like compromise. The only consolation in compromise is the knowledge that the other side didn’t get their way any more than I did. How unfulfilling.
Note: my knowledge is purely anecdotal and I claim no verifiable statistically significant expertise. Only opinion.
Men are stronger than women. Men worry about women they love, like their sisters, and say “my sister is tougher than any guy.” You see, men know what guys say when women are t present. Men might know more than women how dangerous life is for women. They want to believe their sisters can fight off threats. I understand the need to seek comfort in this notion but it’s not true. I’m in great shape and people think I must be tougher than lots of guys. I’m not. I’m betting even a trained fighter who is elite, among women, like the MMA women can’t overpower most men. (I’m in such great shape that on two separate occasions I was approached by coaches of women’s boxing and I’ll tell you that funny story next time).
Ancient Chinese text of uncertain authorship that teaches great stuff about how to win. Examples:
*Know your enemy
*Never fight your enemy in a way that favors his strengths. He can be beaten if you attack him where he is weakest.
Why don’t lions and tigers and bears rule the world. They are physically stronger. One on one, a human will always lose in hand to hand (paw) combat. So what don’t we do? We avoid hand against paw and outsmart them. The winner is not necessarily the physically strongest, the winner is the one who fights using her strengths. Had the Vietnamese confronted American soldiers face to face they’d have been crushed. But they fought a guerilla war, relying heavily on stealth,deception, and using America’s enemies against the U.S.. It’s the same way the colonists beat the British with the help of the French.
I will give you a more extensive list, but one example is, if I know he doesn’t want anyone to suspect what he is up to, I would resort to scratching his face. It wouldn’t overpower him but I knew my enemy and I knew he couldn’t go home like that so instantly, he withdrew.
Men are stronger than women one against one so we women have to be smarter by knowing his weakness and exploiting it.
Caroleena, speaking of how she foiled several would-be rapists over the years.
In American culture it is acceptable to write women off as emotional and illogical. Men who would never, ever admit to racism, cheerfully acknowledge they believe women are inferior–maybe not to all men, but for sure, they are more intelligent than the majority of females. Therefore it is not such a bad thing to ignore a woman’s words and there’s nothing wrong with persuading women to change what they say.
No means no is a popular phrase but it’s not specific enough. I have a revision for “No means no.” I propose something like “One statement of “no” means “no until I say otherwise.” Or “It only takes one utterance of no to mean no.” Ok, we can punch up the writing. The point is, men will say no once and that’s the end of the discussion on any subject. But men don’t take women’s words seriously. If a woman says no, to sex, that’s just temporary. He will keep putting his hand over there, or he will continue to attempt to nudge legs apart with his knee, or…or…he will just keep doing what he wants to and if resistance flags, if the volume of protests goes down, he feels encouraged. Weaker refusal is interpreted as yes, or getting there. Men, think about it honestly. Has she ever seemed to object strenuously but then stopped fighting and you thought “oh, I guess she’s ok with this after all.” You’re no rapist! Are you sure? Men can you imagine being weaker than a full half of the world’s population? Imagine one of those much stronger persons has you in a position that makes you question which way to go to keep yourself safe so you give up trying out of fear of being hurt worse. I’ve never been raped but I have been pressured and it INFURIATED me. Consensual never begins with no. What if she is teasing? Err on the side of caution. Do without.
Awkward. That is one of the many feelings. A working girl reported she felt uncomfortable, being naked in front of a stranger. She wished she could wear a mask, and did not feel she could be her natural self. She felt foolish responding to what he was doing bc it was so personal
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Threesomes are too much work. I have to constantly make sure both women feel attended to. It’s so distracting I can’t really enjoy.
A former client explaining why 3somes are not to his taste.
And what about jealous men who feel underserved? They resort to interrupting the two others, even if he took his turn. Suddenly he has a question that needs answering, or an owie on his pinkie that must be looked at right now.
Of course, you will recall from my earlier posts that a jealous guy might get violent once he is alone with his girlfriend so the third party doesn’t know he felt left out.
A woman’s post coital tactic is to heighten her spying on her guy to see if the suspected couple are meeting without her. Accusations usually accompany surveillance. A woman almost never used stealth to spy on her man (kinda funny, yes?) Even if she goes through his phone, for example, and finds nothing, once a woman feels slighted during a threesome, she doesn’t require any more evidence of wrongdoing, and will not, under any circumstance, be persuaded that there’s nothing going on without her.
Insider expertise was gifted to me in a forwarded email, the original message was written by a scientist who had studied this virus since the 1970’s. I want you to have the advice as well as the name of the scientist. Please forward widely!
Subject: What I am doing for the upcoming COVID-19 (coronavirus) pandemic
Dear Colleagues, as some of you may recall, when I was a professor of pathology at the University of California San Diego, I was one of the first molecular virologists in the world to work on coronaviruses (the 1970s). I was the first to demonstrate the number of genes the virus contained. Since then, I have kept up with the coronavirus field and its multiple clinical transfers into the human population (e.g., SARS, MERS), from different animal sources.
The current projections for its expansion in the US are only probable, due to continued insufficient worldwide data, but it is most likely to be widespread in the US by mid to late March and April.
Here is what I have done and the precautions that I take and will take. These are the same precautions I currently use during our influenza seasons, except for the mask and gloves.:
1) NO HANDSHAKING! Use a fist bump, slight bow, elbow bump, etc.
2) Use ONLY your knuckle to touch light switches. elevator buttons, etc.. Lift the gasoline dispenser with a paper towel or use a disposable glove.
3) Open doors with your closed fist or hip – do not grasp the handle with your hand, unless there is no other way to open the door. Especially important on bathroom and post office/commercial doors.
4) Use disinfectant wipes at the stores when they are available, including wiping the handle and child seat in grocery carts.
5) Wash your hands with soap for 10-20 seconds and/or use a greater than 60% alcohol-based hand sanitizer whenever you return home from ANY activity that involves locations where other people have been.
6) Keep a bottle of sanitizer available at each of your home’s entrances. AND in your car for use after getting gas or touching other contaminated objects when you can’t immediately wash your hands.
7) If possible, cough or sneeze into a disposable tissue and discard. Use your elbow only if you have to. The clothing on your elbow will contain infectious virus that can be passed on for up to a week or more!
What I have stocked in preparation for the pandemic spread to the US:
1) Latex or nitrile latex disposable gloves for use when going shopping, using the gasoline pump, and all other outside activity when you come in contact with contaminated areas.
Note: This virus is spread in large droplets by coughing and sneezing. This means that the air will not infect you! BUT all the surfaces where these droplets land are infectious for about a week on average – everything that is associated with infected people will be contaminated and potentially infectious. The virus is on surfaces and you will not be infected unless your unprotected face is directly coughed or sneezed upon. This virus only has cell receptors for lung cells (it only infects your lungs) The only way for the virus to infect you is through your nose or mouth via your hands or an infected cough or sneeze onto or into your nose or mouth.
2) Stock up now with disposable surgical masks and use them to prevent you from touching your nose and/or mouth (We touch our nose/mouth 90X/day without knowing it!). This is the only way this virus can infect you – it is lung-specific. The mask will not prevent the virus in a direct sneeze from getting into your nose or mouth – it is only to keep you from touching your nose or mouth.
3) Stock up now with hand sanitizers and latex/nitrile gloves (get the appropriate sizes for your family). The hand sanitizers must be alcohol-based and greater than 60% alcohol to be effective.
4) Stock up now with zinc lozenges. These lozenges have been proven to be effective in blocking coronavirus (and most other viruses) from multiplying in your throat and nasopharynx. Use as directed several times each day when you begin to feel ANY “cold-like” symptoms beginning. It is best to lie down and let the lozenge dissolve in the back of your throat and nasopharynx. Cold-Eeze lozenges is one brand available, but there are other brands available.
I, as many others do, hope that this pandemic will be reasonably contained, BUT I personally do not think it will be. Humans have never seen this snake-associated virus before and have no internal defense against it. Tremendous worldwide efforts are being made to understand the molecular and clinical virology of this virus. Unbelievable molecular knowledge about the genomics, structure, and virulence of this virus has already been achieved. BUT, there will be NO drugs or vaccines available this year to protect us or limit the infection within us. Only symptomatic support is available.
I hope these personal thoughts will be helpful during this potentially catastrophic pandemic. You are welcome to share this email. Good luck to all of us! Jim
SJames Robb, MD FCAP
A 30 day travel ban on flights from Europe to the United States. I think a temporary hiatus is in order, mostly bc I’m totally unqualified to design effective safety measures. What’s more, in new situations the only thing s person can do is learn from mistakes and that’s tough when a mistake could be deadly.
We should compile good data to analyze the effectiveness of the travel ban. What President Trump said about us having the best economy, health care, doctors and scientists–well, those factors don’t necessarily stop the spread of disease. But what else can we cling to?
When the public was made aware of AIDS no one was trying to learn more. President Reagan never spoke the word AIDS in 8 years. Young people have doubted me but I speak truth. AIDS was the unmentionable. Certainly I didn’t think a virus that hit gay men had anything to do with my world. Even the so-called innocent victims of blood transfusions had nothing to do with healthy me. IV drug use? I would not so much as see an illegal drug for years to come. Not in my world. Keep in mind, we weren’t very sure how the virus was spread, but by and large This is really different.
A bit of the germophobe mentality must be adopted. Germophobe Naomi Campbell went through LAX in a hazmat suit. That’s a bit much. Handwashing with commitment. Disinfecting my area before and after occupancy. Traveling with disinfecting wipes. These things I can do forever.
